Woman refuses to enter stepson’s home anymore after continual mistreatment, her husband takes his son’s side, creating hostility between the couple

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Jan 21, 2025 12:00 PM EST

Marriage between two people is one of the most fulfilling, beautiful, and coveted relationships one can have. The reliability, eternal companionship, and lifelong love are things everyone wants in their life. Though marriage and lifelong love are strongly desired, it doesn't mean they're without their flaws. Sometimes it's better to be unmarried than married to the wrong person. Sure, no one is perfect, but there are levels of what's okay and not okay. You're so immersed in your spouse's life that if their children don't like you, it will obviously pose an issue. 

In the story below, the protagonist is a woman who's remarried later in life. Both she and her husband have children from previous marriages, and in general they are on decent terms with their stepchildren. All except one. One of her husband's sons doesn't like her at all, and makes it known. She puts her foot down after countless gripes and mistreatments. The problem isn't just that her stepson hates her, it's also that her husband is on his side. She'll have to win him over somehow. 

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    AMITAH for not going to my stepson’s house?

    "I feel so unwelcome there"
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    I'm female (67), spouse is male (65) I'll call him chuck. Chuck and I have both been divorced for over 29 years. We dated since 2011 and got married last year. I have 2 children from my ex and chuck has three. All the kids are grown and have family of their own. We have Christmas separately kids then his
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    on different days. My kids adore chuck and treat respectfully and view him as part of the family. We have 10 grandkids between the 2 of us. Chuck's daughter and oldest son are friendly but reserved around. That's fine. Now hi second born son takes every effort to let me know I do not belong. For
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    Christmas, he buys a personal gift for Chuck (pictures of grandkids)and nothing for me. I really don't want a separate gift. I just want to be included in the pictures with the grandkids. The kids have known me since birth,so I'm not a stranger. When we got in the car to go home (hour drive) Chuck apologized for his son's
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    r de behavior. I told him I would no longer be attending any events at his son's house. Chuck was not happy and he let me know. Not only do I feel unwelcome at his son's house Chuck has yet to speak to his son privately about not including me. AITAS for not going and expecting Chuck to stand up
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    for me! For some reason I can't fix the typos so please excuse them
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    Huge-Shelter-3401 • 7h ago NTA but you stepson sure is. He's old enough not to be acting like a . His dad should say something and until he does, I see no reason you should go to stepson's house.
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    Content_Print_6521 • 6h ago I don't see why you should go. He doesn't want you there and makes it more than obvious. Spare both of you the awkwardness.
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    As for your husband, if he's going to be this spineless he deserves to go spend that part of the holiday by himself. You should go out to a spa or have a nice long lunch with a friend.
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    Drea... 6h ago • Edited 6h ago Tbh, that's super ride on his son's part. like, you're married to chuck now, you've been around for a while, it's normal to wanna be included. chuck should definitely have your back here, especially if you're
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    feeling unwelcome. it's not just about the gifts, it's about respect. honestly, if chuck's not gonna address it, i get why you're like, "nah, i'm done"
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  • What's she asking for is completely reasonable, but at the same time she has to accept if her stepson doesn't like her. It's not her place to intervene. 

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    CantRespond_Berry... 7h ago NTA. Honestly I'm a firm believer in protecting your peace. Why be around someone who's r de to you even if it's your husbands son. I would hope your husband understands... there just needs to be some boundaries put in place.
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    BatsyRider • 2h ago NTA. You're not asking for much.. just basic inclusion and respect as part of the family. Chuck should absolutely stand up for you, because his silence signals acceptance of his son's behavior. A marriage is a team effort, and right
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    now, it sounds like you're playing solo.
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    • Key-... 7h ago Edited 5h ago Nta and your husband should have your back. Stepsons a but owes you nothing really, your husband on the other hand....
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    Quiet Parsnip_4742 •6h ago NTA it sounds like you and your step son might be happier if you didn't go to his home anymore. I can understand that your husband would be upset bc it disrupts this idea that you're all one
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    big happy family, but he does have a responsibility to help mediate things.
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  • I would be a little salty though if my husband didn't defend me over his son. Remarrying is so complicated, even when the kids are grown. 

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    RazzmatazzOk9463 • 7h ago NTA. You have a chuck problem and a stepson problem.
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    InsertCleverName652 6h ago 13 years and Chuck has never addressed this. "Son, stepmom has been around over a decade. How about you stop icing her out?"
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    CutDear5970 • 6h ago NTA. Chuck shou,d be unhappy with his sin and his lack of manners
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    shep2105 6h ago NTA, stepson is and Chuck is letting him get away with it. You've been together 13 years, his kids are adults, but they act like children. Chuck is AH for not stopping this nonsense
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    canningjars • 6h ago There is always one! Do not waste any more energy on them and don't put yourself in positions where you can e be slighted.
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